February 13, 2009

• Valentine theories

  i guess i will through in my two cents. as written on reciepts.

  my ethics teacher said that Valentine’s day is the day guys hate the most. because no matter what, they lose–they either don’t get the right gift (or any gift), or they do get the right gift and lose the money.

  so i figured i would tell every man exactly what to get his girl and make this a whole lot simpler.

  4 types of guys:

  1. those with girls who feel loved by them

  2. those with girls who don’t feel loved by them

  3. those who are not sure if they have a girl or not (ambiguous relationships….haven’t had “the talk” yet)

  4. those who do not have a girl

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  4 types of presents:

  1. For the guy with a girl that feels loved by them, great. that would be the point of valentine’s day to a woman (well, hopefully). Us girls want to feel loved. if you already do a good job of this 364 days a year (or something close to that), then really, we will probably be happy with anything. Besides, you should have no problems thinking of an interesting gift (besides flowers and chocolates…unless she really does want traditional) since you already are in the habit of loving us. A gift would be something significant to the relationship–probably something small–that just says “hey, this was another opportunity to say what you already know.” Something that celebrates what you already have–a loving relationship.

  2.For the guy with a girl that does not feel loved by them, that is your problem, not Valentine’s day. Valentine’s day just makes it obvious. You SHOULD be sweating for a good present. but you shouldn’t be looking for a present, you should be looking for an apology. or/and a plan. because if a girl does not feel loved in a relationship, she really doesn’t HAVE a relationship. Valentine’s day shouldn’t be a jump to show her you care–it should be another step in the path you are already traveling. So i would take her to dinner, and talk about what changes need to be made in your relationship so that she DOES feel loved. and then start doing it. the other days of the year.

  3. For those who are not sure if they have a girl or not, you would fall into the flowers and chocolate group. go for the traditional. at worst, you can blame it on tradition. at best, maybe you can figure out where your relationship really is. Most of the time, no matter what happens, the girl will be happy because girls like to be noticed. it is just nice.

  4. The single guy. keep busy February 14. it will come and it will go. have your 5 minutes of loneliness and then move on, because a holiday is not a good enough reason to start something with someone. This too shall pass.

  So maybe all the pressure is on you to “perform” well. sorry about that. girls don’t have it much better. we just get nervous that you won’t think we are worth it to take the time to evaluate things and try to show us that we are beautiful.

  there. all that advice for those in relationships spoken by one who isn’t. so i am going to follow my own advice to singles…work all day and then babysit at night so their parents can enjoy what they have. and my five minutes of loneliness will come and go and then comes Sunday.

  so guys, please do make an effort. it is just nice.

  and girls, don’t buy into commercialism and sell yourself short. you are not the sum of your Valentine’s day gifts.

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