Month: November 2010

  • Driving Force

    Another philosophy paper:)

    Behind the formation of every utopia is a driving force, something out of the ordinary enough to make extraordinary changes. This paper will examine some of the motives and driving forces behind the beginnings of selected readings on Utopia: fear, suffering, motherhood, brotherhood, and individual/collective passion.

    For each of these motives, I give a visual picture: fear as a driving force looks like a stampede—the masses are moving forward, where no one (or only a select few) know where it is going. Suffering looks like a sigh of resignation, picking up your load and grinning and bearing it. Motherhood as a driving force is a picture of carrying the young (the next generation) into Utopia, whereas brotherhood is walking in hand-in-hand. Lastly, individual/collective passion is marching to the beat of your own drum (or the drum that drowns out everything else).

    Before diving into these five motives, two things should be noted: most often, the driving forces are a mixture—and they might even change for the individual or group while they are in the process. When the driving force changes, so does the utopia—or what it looks like. It is very rare indeed for more than one generation to have the same driving force (as circumstances change, and the people themselves change) which is why very few utopias can last more than one generation.

    “He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

    Fear gives us three choices—to stay where we are, to run back to the past, or to run on to the future. Depending on the circumstances on which direction we head: whatever way we feel is the safest, and will relieve the fear pressing down upon us. With the visual of the stampede, you see the crazed eyes of the group moving forward, stumbling along, simply to get away.

    Fear as a driving motive towards a utopia is often the easiest and the most effective. The masses might not respond to reward or adventure, but make them scared and unity is easily gained. An example of this is in the graphic novel Watchman. At the end, someone releases a monster on New York, destroying millions. In the chaos that follows, an almost utopian society flourishes, bought from the fear created and freedom sold.

    In Red Mars, Ann shows a deep fear, something that drives her through the entire book, until near the end, when she realizes from necessity she must snap out of it. Her utopia is Mars untouched—but as well, Mars discovered and enjoyed: “But when I do that, I change it—I destroy what it is, what I love.” Her conflicting emotions end up the most part with her resigning herself to fate, and following the stampede since she finds no other solution.

    Maya, on the other hand, has a different kind of fear that drives her: the fear of being left out. Her passion is relationships, and she thrives off the drama. Maya has to be in the middle of the stampede, admiring the strength of those in front. Both of these women have other passions and drives, but fear seems to be dominating. While other examples may consider themselves beyond this more primitive driving force, in all honesty, fear is a part of every change—when the cost of standing still is greater than movement.

    “People have to really suffer before they can risk doing what they love.”Chuck Palahniuk

    Suffering brings us together in a much deeper unity than fear. Fear is grasping at straws, whereas suffering together creates a brotherhood that is difficult to break. The picture of suffering as a driving force is assessing and understanding the situation, realizing that to survive you need to pick up your burden and grin and bear it.

    In utopian reading, you often find that people are only willing to reach towards utopia after every other idea has been tried and broken. Even in our own lives we see our unwillingness to change until there really is no other way around it. In class, the question was brought up “Why do we wait until the last moment to change?” And that question still calls for answers.

    The Dispossessed is based on pain and suffering. It was the unifying drive that started and continued their utopia. The group rebelled and “chose” exile on the moon: the moon where survival meant much pain and suffering.

    “It is our suffering that brings us together. It is not love. Love does not obey the mind, and turns to hate when forced. The bond that binds us is beyond choice. We are brothers. In pain, which each of us must suffer alone, in hunger, in poverty, I hope, we know our brotherhood. You have nothing, you possess nothing, you own nothing. You are free. All you have is what you are and what you give.”

    Suffering as a motive is very closely related to brotherhood, and like all of these driving forces, never is a single force, but part of the DNA make up of the decision to move towards a utopia. Human nature often requires pain to stimulate movement. We are naturally a lazy bunch.

    In The Dispossessed the first generation began their utopia with suffering, as well as the passion of the teachings of their leader. The second generation continued to have the motivation of suffering, since the climate was so harsh, continued the teachings (although they lacked passion in many), and grew in the motivation of brotherhood. Because the driving force remained similar, the utopia was able to continue. The main character and his friends help bring about a sort of “revival” of the original ideals, which by the end of the book, give hope that the society will be able to continue.

    Much of the same formula is seen in the Kibbutzim, a true experiment in utopia, as read in the article “Utopia and its Discontents.” Melford Spiro points out three things that happened to create something different (collectivism) that lead to the beginning of the kibbutz and utopian living: first, “adolescent rebellion against parents and other authority figures who represented the values of the regnant social order,” second, “an emotionally powerful social experience (or experiences),” and lastly, “a motivationally powerful belief system.”

    The second motivation—the emotionally powerful social experience—was two-fold: the shock and suffering of moving to a new land with no protection from people who sought their downfall, and the connection of brotherhood with those around them. Again, we see suffering and brotherhood closely related.

    In Red Mars, the character with the drive of suffering is Nadia. Growing up in Siberia, she knows little else: pain is a part of life. To get though life, you grin and bear it: you hunker down and get the work done. Nadia uses work to numb the pain and feelings she has. Through the book, you see her discover beauty, and then return to work when the pain comes back. Suffering as a motivation is often very productive (probably the most productive of any of the driving forces), as we see in Nadia’s life when she becomes the first president of Mars (later in the trilogy).

    “A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.”  ~Tenneva Jordan

    Our class discussion on motherhood was eye opening for me. Think of the characteristics that the word “motherhood” conjures. These were the ideals of Herland, the utopia that had only women for 2000 years. The picture for this driving force is of a mother carrying her child into utopia. The suffering component comes in the sacrifice that is given for the betterment of the next generation.

    Herland magnifies what I feel is missing in society when Terry, the male chauvinist of the story, is disgruntled by how his girlfriend applies motherhood to him: “The only thing they can think about a man is only fatherhood! …Fatherhood! As if a man was always wanting to be a father!”

    While the focus is in utopia is more often aimed at brotherhood, it is interesting to compare and contrast the differences and similarities of the two. Motherhood is more outward focused, with a future vision for their children, and a willingness to sacrifice and formulate their utopia around those children. In Red Mars, the character with the motherhood motivation is Hiroko, who is not at the front of the action, but always pervades the movement of the utopia.

    “It snowed last year too: I made snowman and my brother knocked it down and I knocked my brother down and then we had tea.” Dylan Thomas

    Brotherhood: perhaps what we settled for since the sacrificing nature of motherhood (or fatherhood) didn’t suit us. Brotherhood is the most well-known and common driving force for utopia. It was foundational in the founding of our own nation. It is the picture of moving forward, hand-in-hand, toward a utopia. Communism, the golden rule, and equality reign.

    Looking Backward says this is the main difference between current life and utopia: “The solidarity of the race and brotherhood of men, which to you were but fine phrases, are, to our thinking and feeling, ties as real and as vital as physical fraternity.” News from Nowhere has much of the same sentiment.

    In the article on Kibbutzim, “Utopia and its Discontents”, it describes brotherhood as passion for community, or “Communitas.” Communitas produces this passion, and is “an emotionally powerful social experience consisting of primordial and reciprocal identifications among the members of a small social group…A family-type community, between twelve and seventeen young men and women would sit together every evening after work…and exchange impressions and opinions…longing of each for his neighbor, a desire to sit together until late at night.”

    Chase down your passion like it’s the last bus of the night.  ~Terri Guillemets

    Passion is marching to beat of the drum in your own heart. This can be alone, or with others. This can be the passion of motherhood or brotherhood, and is often religious. One of the three characteristics of the Kibbutzim was their passion for Zionism. The Dispossessed had their Odom sayings. But Red Mars brought out some of the individual passions that drive people towards utopia.

    Each person had their own composition of drives and motives, but on Red Mars, Frank and “twin” John have a passion for control. John’s passion seems to tend more towards brotherhood and unity, but it is Frank, who is so driven that he indirectly kills John and then says “Now we’ll see what I can do with this planet.”

    Frank works tirelessly, and while reading the book I kept looking for his motivation. Besides getting his hands into everything and getting his desired outcomes (control), I can find none. Even in his death he is telling people what to do. Passion gets us places, and hopefully those places are good.

    In conclusion, we all have motives behind what we do. We have driving forces that cause us to move from inactivity to activity. Beginning and continuing a utopia is no different. Careful examination of the drives and motives (and combination) behind a utopia can give valuable insights to its future.

     

  • T-day

    “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.”  ~John Fitzgerald Kennedy

    Sitting with comfy clothes, I wiggle my toes, snuggled up under a blanket on the couch. The rain falls steadily outside, enhansing the cozy feeling. Friends and family are coming and going all day, with John looking out the window to make sure everything goes as planned. The table is lined up with pies, and the counter has the turkey, as well as the vegetarian delights: sweet potatoes and stuffing. It’s a good day, filled with games and laughter. Thank you God.

     
    “On Thanksgiving Day we acknowledge our dependence.”  ~William Jennings Bryan

    Have a good one.

  • Culture for Children

    “Growing Up Global”  by Homa Sabet Tavangar

    1.      Keep the world at your fingertips. Purchase an up-to-date globe and keep it handy for easy reference and/or cover a wall near the kitchen table or other central location with an oversized, laminated world map.

    2.      Enrich your playlists and music collection. As kids become accustomed to so much musical diversity they adjust naturally to the various sounds, making the genres feel less ‘foreign,’ and creating a bridge with new friends from all over the planet.

    3.      Make Birthday Parties Global: When you’re ready to move beyond the Princess, Power Ranger or Pony party themes, consider choices derived from global celebrations: Bastille Day, Cinco de Mayo, Earth Day, Chinese New Year, the World Cup, Olympics…. 

    4.      Spice-Up Thanksgiving and your take-out choices: Look to your cultural heritage (or a guest’s) or a favorite ethnic food style. Start slowly by using a new spice or herb, or add a new side dish. And don’t forget variations on leftovers: turkey enchiladas, green bean and rice pilaf, dumplings and pieroski’s make the next day’s meal almost as exciting as traditional Thanksgiving. When deciding on take-out or choosing a restaurant for a family dinner, try cuisine from a culture that is less familiar to you.

    5.      Find Beautiful Books: Vibrant coffee table and kids’ picture books can bring diverse circumstances, people and emotions to life, for all ages. 

    6.      Decorate the Holidays in a New Way: Decorations from Latin American, Russian, Asian, and many other cultures are available in all kinds of mainstream stores. Kids might enjoy selecting an ornament from a favorite country, or can pick an ornament they find pretty, and then find out about where it came from and what it represents.

    7.      Get passports. Even if you have no intention or budget for international travel, possessing your own passports will put your family in the mindset of the possible, as a very physical reminder of your world citizenship.

    8.      Use Soccer to Go Global. Pick an international team to follow based on your heritage, your friend’s, your favorite type of food, the language you want to learn to speak, your favorite jersey, or hundreds of other reasons – get creative! The FIFA website includes an inter-active world map to help you learn about all the teams and member countries.

    a.    www.fifa.com: learn

    b.    Have each child pick a few international teams to follow

    c.    Study the lives of their favorite players

    d.    Go and watch a soccer game near you: see what it is like up close

    e.    Find out about girls/women’s teams

    f.     Watch a movie: Bend it like Beckham, Gracie, Offside, The Cup, The Great Match, The Boys from Brazil, the History of Soccer (7DVD set)

    9.      See the World Through Movies: View and compare the stories of Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast, Aladdin, Superman, Jungle Book and many more through movie versions from other countries and eras. Also included: Homa Tavangar’s “Essential 7 Foreign Family Movies” as well as hundreds of other foreign film recommendations for all ages.

    10.  Expose Children to Foreign Language(s): There are lots of ways (covered in the book) to do this, but start by making the effort to learn a few words in a foreign language with your kids – even if it’s learning how to say something mundane or silly like “toilet” in five languages! See if there are root similarities or other ways that languages relate.

    More ideas at www.growingupglobal.net

  • More and More

    From Claire Raines and Lara Ewing “The Art of Connecting”

    Core principles:

    1. There’s always a bridge: work around roadblocks, change to make it work. You can always find SOMETHING in common.

        a. Clarify your intention

        b. Notice your own reactions

        c. Search for similarities

        d. Use cues you pick up

        e. Experiment and adjust.

    2. Curiosity is key: curious people are open-minded, learn from everything and everyone, are focus, more satisfied, seem younger than their years, stay mentally sharp longer

    3. What you assume is what you get: what are you looking for? you will find it.

    4. Each individual is a culture: some elements that contribute to an individual’s culture: country, race, religion, parenting, generation, abilities, style, sexual orientation, political affiliation, thinking style, values, tastes. Don’t categorize.

    5. No strings attached: don’t expect reciprocity

    From John Naisbitt’s “Mind Set!”

    1. While many things change, most things remain constant: most change is hype.

    2. The future is embedded in the present: look closely.

    3. Focus on the score of the game: show where you are at, matter of factly, like a sports game.

    4. Understanding how powerful it is not to have to be right: it frees you to find right.

    5. See the future as a picture puzzle: mix and match until you see the new picture.

    6. Don’t get so far ahead of the parade that people don’t know you are in it

    7. Resistance to change falls if benefits are real

    8. Things that we expect to happen always happen more slowly: expectations travel faster than reality

    9. You don’t get results by solving problems but by exploiting opportunities

    10. Don’t add unless you subtract: never throw more balls than you can juggle.

    From Chip and Dan Heath “Made to Stick”

    Six principles of sticky ideas:

    1. Simplicity: find the core idea

    2. Unexpectedness: generate interest and curiosity. Make the audience pay attention

    3. Concreteness: nail down examples/vision: make the audience understand and remember it

    4. Credibility: make the audience agree/believe it

    5. Emotions: make them feel something. Don’t look at the mass, look at the one. Make them care.

    6. Stories: make the audience be able to act on it

     

     

  • More Brainy Books

    Can you ever have enough? More good advice:

    From Scott Belsky “Making Ideas Happen”

    Making an idea happen =

    1. The idea +

    2. Organization and execution (prioritize) +

    3. Forces of community (Use what you have, share your information liberally, capitalize on feedback, and be transparent and accountable.) +

    4. Leadership Capability (Intrinsic motivation/reward, appreciate others liberally, leaders should talk last, and share ownership of ideas)

    “Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it” –Dwight Eisenhower

    From Tom Peters “The Project 50″

    1. Reframe: never accept a project/assignment as given–turn it into a WOW project. No JAMS: Just another mediocre success

    2. Translate your daily experiences into “cool stuff to do.”

    3. Become a benchmarking fool: look at everything small thing that happens to you as a golden learning opportunity

    4. Make it beautiful. beauty is more important than you think.

    5. Make sure you are making someone angry–because WOW projects change the rules and that makes people upset.

    6. Have diversity and range of perspectives, hire the freaks because they know what is cool

    7. Give yourself a deadline. Do it.

    8. Find–and then nurture–a few co-conspirators.

    9. Make sure the project says “Wow! Beautiful! Revolutionary! Impact! Raving Fans!” Life is too short for non-wow projects

    10. Write/describe your project on one 5×7 card, able to explain in an elevator ride.

    11. Tell your project through stories. What is your story?

    12. Everyone is in sales. Are you ready to sell your project/product?

    13. Never forget your friends. Appreciate your team

    14. Don’t try to convert your enemies. Don’t waste time on them.

    15. Become a master bootstrapper. Too much initial money kills

    16. Try out the prototype. A lot.

    17. Play hard

    18. Keep recruiting: wow projects call for wow people

    19. Make lists. lots. Keep a binder, like the “project manual”

    20. Master the 15 minute meeting. Use an egg timer. Do not go over. Keep everyone updated.

    21. Don’t forget to celebrate. If it is worth learning, it is worth celebrating (That is from supercamp). Write up the project history and throw a celebration party.

    From Dan Roam “The Back of the Napkin”

    Visual thinking process:

    1. Looking: Collecting and screening: what is there? is there a lot of it? what is not there?

    2. Seeing: Selecting and clumping: do I know what I am seeing? have I seen this before? Any patterns?

    3. Imagining: Seeing what isn’t there: can I make analogies/connections to other things i’ve seen in the past? Is there a better way to do this/rearrange this?

    4. Showing: Making it all clear: Of all i’ve imagined: what are the three most important pictures for me and my audience? What is the best way to convey the idea? when I go back to the beginning, does it still make sense?

    22. Pass on the project–sell out! To someone as passionate about it as you are.

  • December 12

    Wow. 3(ish) more weeks of classes. GRADUATION!!!

    Graduate high school: 2000

    Graduate college: 2010

    It has been a long road. So. Please come celebrate with me!

    OPEN HOUSE (that is translated “YUMMY FOOD”)

    December 12 (Sunday), 2:00pm-6:00pm

    * To celebrate graduating

    * To send me off to Brazil (I will have all the rest of the Brazilian jewelry available as well)

    And you can play floor hockey if you want (the bruise on my leg says that it isn’t for the faint at heart. grin). It is at my really cool wonderful amazing church:

    Horizon Central, 1001 E. Palmer St

    http://horizoncentral.net/

    I would love to see you. YES. You.

    *

    My car got broken into last night. Luckily, the thief did not take my tap dancing shoes that were in the back seat. Nope. Or my cassette tapes. The only other thing available was a handful of change (mostly pennies). Considering that my door handle is broken, the thief probably had to work harder to get into my unlocked car and steal pennies than they have worked for a while.

    *

    In one of the many random books I have looked at lately, it talked about the 10 year/20 million check. Would you be doing the same thing, living your life the same way if you: a. would live less than 10 years more, and b. had $20 million in the bank. Good question.

    10 years to live? I think the only thing different I would do is not have the objective to get married/start a family. I would push harder to make sure I would get my Greece/Cairo and Amazon trip, and go on more vacations. Most everything else I would keep the same: stay close to my 14 people (yes, I have a list), 10 Living Stones in 10 years, and write a book every year.

    $20 million in the bank? I would certainly get more training in money management. I would take that as quite a responsibility to manage wisely. Giving money away is so difficult–to do the right way–not too much, not too little. I would invest it in a way that it could take care of itself, keep making money so I could keep giving it away, and entrust the rest to those I trusted. Because basically, I want the money to take care of itself so I can be free of it. I like having money to give, but I don’t like stagnant money. bleh.

    What about you?

  • I Lied

    …when I said I would only post my first paper. Here is my third philosophy paper. I just enjoy writing them too much not to post them:).

    Useful Utopia

    “Ring the bells that still can ring, forget your perfect offering, there’s a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.” –Leonard Cohen

    From our discussions and readings, the more I think about utopia the less I know. Before I took this class I never thought of utopia on a large scale. I was big on self-perfection; figuring out better ways of doing things in my own life, but not on the same level as utopia (mainly because it seemed like too much work).

    Now that I am reading and talking about utopia, I go back and forth on theories. Could it happen? I don’t know. I lean toward the idea of it being impossible, but I think the sliver of hope that says perhaps it may happen is exactly what makes utopia so intriguing and useful. Without forming conclusions as to whether or not a utopia is possible, this paper will look at the benefits of utopia today. Today, in a day where it obviously has not arrived.

    “Life without utopia is suffocating, for the multitude at least: threatened otherwise with petrifaction, the world must have a new madness.” –E.M. Cioran, History and Utopia

    Utopias are useful, not just to college students, in four distinct ways. First, dreaming up an ideal world takes work. It takes brain muscles to nail down specifics as to what we think works and does not work, or to agree/disagree with someone else’s version. Simply taking the time to dream is a benefit that cannot be underestimated. Second, utopias are useful for pointing out the problems of today to those who don’t see it. When you list how things should be you can clearly contrast them from how they are currently.

    Third, utopia can bring about hope for change. Maybe not everything, and probably not all at once, but seeing it down on paper can stir something inside that says “Maybe I can change, or do something a bit differently.” Fourth and final, utopias are useful in discovering things about oneself. If you are writing your own utopia, it draws out the question of why you feel that would work/not work. Reading someone else’s utopia is like reading their diary, it reveals a lot about a person when you read their dreams.

    Dreaming

    “Dreams are answers to questions we haven’t yet figured out how to ask.” –X-Files

    I thought the project for this class would be to create our own utopias. And then I walked into the classroom. It isn’t, or at least it doesn’t have to be. But I am hoping that I can work some kind of my own utopian creation into one of the papers due before the end of class. Why? Because I find it stimulating to try to figure out how I think I can do things better.  

    The process of discovering how to do things better was very highly esteemed in Herland. It was expected that each generation would improve upon the past, and pass that on: “Have you no respect for the past? For what was thought and believed by your foremothers?”

    “Why no,” she said. “Why should we? They are all gone. They knew less than we do. If we are not beyond them, we are unworthy of them—and unworthy of the children who must go beyond us.”

    Dreaming of a utopia is the first step to making something happen; just like admitting you are an alcoholic is the first step to recovery. If you refuse, or cannot see there is a problem, then you will never change. If for no other reason, utopias are beneficial for making us discontent with what is presently reality, and start dreaming of other possibilities.

    Herland was Gilman’s way of dreaming about life without the problem of men. Looking Backward was Bellamy’s way of dreaming about life where each person could be fully alive without poverty. News from Nowhere was Morris’s way of dreaming about life gone back to natural.

    Marin, in Jameson’s article The Politics of Utopia, says that “(utopia’s) function lies not in helping us to imagine a better future but rather in demonstrating our utter incapacity to imagine such a future…to reveal the ideological closure of the system in which we are somehow trapped and confined.” Whether or not this is true, it still points out the benefits of dreaming a utopia (even from a negative stand point).

    Reading someone else’s utopia awakens something inside that asks “Why isn’t it like this now?” This process, even if not continued to any further action, is still better than never having been “stirred up” at all.

    Pointing Out Today’s Problems

    Abandon all hopes of utopia—there are people involved.” –Clayton Cramer

    Interesting how people are both the problem and solution in utopias. They are what keep us from getting there, but also who create the utopia itself. And, at least in all of the utopias I have read, there are people included in utopia. Dreaming up utopia is not just pointing out what is right for this “nowhere”—it is also about making clear what is very wrong with today.

    Thomas More wrote a complete first book to preface his Utopia, making specific commentaries on current evils and how much better it was done in his place. The voice of his book was able to say things that More, in repressive England, could not (a lot of good that did him—he still got killed).

    Looking Backward was constantly comparing both worlds, but really came to a head when Bellamy had his main character dream about returning to 19th century England, and try to convince the people that life didn’t have to be that way. The character, after seeing the utopia, is so upset—he walks through the town, seeing the impoverished faces: “Like a wavering translucent spirit face superimposed upon each of these brutish masks I saw the ideal, the possible face that would have been the actual if mind and soul had lived.”

    Bellamy had such a passion for his ideals that he wrote Looking Backward as a way to illustrate that it was much easier to change than we think, and oh, the foolishness and waste of our current system.

    Many of the utopian writers use the newcomer’s shock (newcomer to the utopia) as a tool to reveal current problems for what they are, or discrepancies in what we say and actually do. An example in Looking Backward: “The solidarity of the race and brotherhood of man, which to you were but fine phrases, are, to our thinking and feeling (in this utopia), ties as real and as vital as physical fraternity.”

    News from Nowhere was obviously pushing Morris’s ideas of communism/socialism and a return to the natural. His character is constantly in awe of the beauty of utopia, made so clear by the ugliness of reality. He spends most of the book saying how much better this new place was.

    Herland points out the problem of a male driven society, from chaining up dogs to thinking of fatherhood as “just” fathering a child. As the women learn from the men, Gilman uses their distain and shock to convey the glaring problems of her day, in education, religion, relationships, sex, ex. By stating that “of course things are done this way.” When stereotypes are removed, it makes you wonder how those types got there in the first place.

    Hope for Change

    “There is nothing like dreams to create the future. Utopia today, flesh and blood tomorrow.” –Victor Hugo

    Besides the benefit of asking how things can be done better, utopias often birth a hope that something can change for the better. While this often ends up looking nothing like the original utopia, it still is often different from yesterday. This brings to mind one of my classmates in our discussion: she was so passionate about that “at least SOMETHING could/should change” that I was very certain that something would—at least for her. Utopia had stirred something up inside of her that was moving towards action.

    From that discussion, I put together a theory about knowledge moving toward action:

    Level 1. General knowing. You hear about it. (Utopia? Oh, that is a nice idea)

    Level 2. Specific knowing. You learn about it. (Maybe through a PHIL 414 class)

    Level 3. Simple experiential knowing. You see it for yourself. (For utopia, perhaps this is through a really active imagination)

    Level 4. Deep experiential knowing. It touches you. (This would be what my classmate had)

    Level 5. Ownership knowing. You feel it personally. (This would be utopia realized—which is still in question on plausibility—but maybe this could be small change toward utopia as well)

    I don’t think any of the writers would have written their utopias if they didn’t feel there was some element of hope for change in actuality. Marcuse, in his article The End of Utopia wrote “Today we have the capacity to turn the world into hell…we also have the capacity to turn it into the opposite of hell.”

    News from Nowhere also has this note of hope in the end, where the character is told “Go back again, then, and while you live you will see all around you people engaged in making others live lives which are not their own, while they themselves care nothing for their own real lives—men who hate life though they fear death. Go back and be happier for having seen us, for having added a little hope to your struggle.”

    Discovering Oneself

    “Nearly all creators of Utopia have resembled the man who has toothache, and therefore thinks happiness consists in not having toothache…. Whoever tries to imagine perfection simply reveals his own emptiness.”—George Orwell, Why Socialists Don’t Believe in Fun

    On a personal level, a utopia reveals a lot about how a person thinks. This scares me a bit on writing my own utopia, because I wonder what I will find. For each of the writings, I am constantly pulled out of the “story” and into “Why did that person think that?”

    I think the clearest example of revealing oneself through utopian thought was Mother Ann and the Shakers. Her experience with having four children die deeply affected what she thought, and then in turn, what all of the Shakers lived.

    I have made sure to get a background on each of the authors we have read, and have not been disappointed to find connections with their life and what happened, with what they have written. Herland unashamedly looks at Gilman’s issues with a male-driven society, News from Nowhere at Morris’s socialist views and reaction to Bellamy, and Looking Backward reveals Bellamy’s passion for ending poverty and waste.

    Conclusion

    Nothing, not even a Utopia, can necessarily make the pursuit of happiness a successful one that ends in capture. The best society can merely allow every individual to flourish in the pursuit.” –Daniel Nettle, Happiness: The Science Behind Your Smile

    I like utopias. I like thinking about them, dreaming them, reading them. And honestly, I don’t really care if they are impossible or not. I think they are beneficial just as they are.

     

  • Love and War

    by John and Stasi Eldredge. yep. those people. The guy wrote “Wild at Heart” (which I probably told every guy in my life to read) and she wrote “Captivating” (which I probably told every girl in my life to read). Now they wrote a marriage book. And while I am not married, maybe someday, and if someday, I want to do it darn well. DARN well.

    This is long. Skip what you want. I typed it–because it is worth it to read. Especially if you are married. Or not.

    The wife wants:

    1.       To be seen and valued for who I am, to be truly known by my husband.

    2.       To live my life with my husband, to share in the adventure of life.

    3.       To lean into (his) strength.

    The husband wants:                                                    

    1.       To be believed in.

    2.       (her) to ride with me in some great adventure.

    3.       Beauty.

    “The vision is always solid and reliable; the vision is always a fact. It is the reality that is often a fraud.”  G.K. Chesterton

    “You will love getting married; it’s great to find that one special person you want to annoy the rest of your life.” –Rita Rudner

    “We made love last night. And it was good. Really, really good. Utter oneness. Unfettered desire awoken and offered and satisfied. When it is good it is a window into Eden. As we lay there afterward, (her) head on my shoulder, it seemed that time had slipped away and taken with it all that had come between us. Lying there I know that this is what is true—true of love, true of us, true of marriage. How did I forget? I found myself realizing again that this is the woman I love, this is what I want, and this is what is true of our marriage.”

    From “Shall We Dance”:

    Wife: why is it do you think that people get married?

    Detective: passion

    Wife: no

    Detective: that’s interesting because I would have taken you for a romantic. Why then?

    Wife: Because we need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet. I mean what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things. The bad things. The terrible things. The mundane things. All of it. All the time. Every day. You’re saying, “your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness.”

    Top things that would most help your marriage:

    1.       Find life in God

    2.       Deal with your brokenness

    3.       Learn to shut down the spiritual attacks that come against your marriage

    What parents attempt to show their children:

    1.       You are loved more than you could imagine

    2.       The world does not revolve around you

    Dream together. “As (he) and I explored our dreams, it began to dawn on me that all my past experiences uniquely qualified me to partner in this project with this uniquely qualified man. My heart leapt inside of me when I realized that not only did we want the same things, but I was the right woman to come alongside John and help make them happen. I wanted to. Something deep in my soul was coming alive as we continued to envision what it was that God had placed in our hearts to do.”

    1.       Change your perspectives. We take the life we have right now, and we say to ourselves “we are in this together.”

    2.       Finding a shared adventure is to cultivate an adventurous marriage. What are you looking forward to, together?

    Remember these truths:

    1.       You are your spouse live in a love story that is set in the midst of a very real war

    2.       God gave us marriage, both as a picture of his love to the world, and because we are going to need each other. We are not playing house—we are living in an epic love story

    3.       Your marriage is a perfect storm because your brokenness and sin collide in devastating precision with your spouse’s. Yet God is in that, because he is using your marriage to transform you.

    4.       When it comes to love and happiness, we are broken cups. We will put untold amounts of pressure on our marriage until we realize that God is the waterfall; he is the love we are looking for. The greatest gift you can give your spouse (and everyone else in your life) is to have a real relationship with God

    5.       If you have to choose between companionship or eros, go with companionship. It is the bedrock of a marriage

    6.       You have an enemy, and it is not your spouse. The sooner you come to terms with that, the better

    7.       God has rigged the world for adventure. You have a mission, your spouse has a mission, and your marriage has a mission.

    When the storms come, remember:

    1.       I am loved. Deeply and truly (Jer. 31:3)

    2.       I am secure. Utterly and completely (John 10:28-30)

    3.       I am forgiven. Totally (Col. 2:13)

    4.       God is with me. He will never, ever abandon me (Heb. 13:4)

    “For a woman to give herself over o her husband fully—which is sex as it ought to be—he has to have won her heart, and won it again if only in small, simple ways today. If she is going to be able to abandon herself—which is almost always essential to her orgasm—her man is going to have to have paid attention to the relationship. How beautiful of God to do that; it is so arresting. There are no shortcuts. This act is meant to be the climax of intimacy. God builds into the sexual mystery an insistence upon love and trust outside of bed.

    “There is only one alternative to death and that is to love.” –Glenn Gray

    “Failing to love my husband well does not mean I am a failure. Hurting my husband does not mean I am a hurtful person. Sinning against him (or anyone else for that matter) does not mean my truest identity is as a sinner. As a child of God, I am holy and dearly loved. I am not a sinner but a saint. I have a clean heart, a circumcised heart. My body is now the dwelling place, the temple of the living God. My identity is not up for grabs; it is settled. I belong to God and every single thing he says about me remains true. It is because of his amazing love and because I believe what he says about me, to me, that I am able to face my sin and failures and not turn into putty.”

    “What do our readers need, Lord? What do their marriages need? He said, Healing. So I asked, How is the healing going to come? And he said, forgiveness.”

    A marriage ceremony:

    “Daniel and Megan, you are about to abandon yourselves to each other, throw caution to the wind, forsake independence, isolation, and all others. You will vow to each other your undying love. Before you do, we must call this what it is—this is perfect madness.

    As an inspiration, how lovely. As a reality, how rare. Everyone wants love; everyone is looking for love. Few seem to find what they are looking for; fewer still seem able to sustain it. Why in heaven’s name would you come to church to publicly dedicate yourselves to something so risky, so fraught with danger, so scandalous? “The heart has its reasons,” Pascal confessed, “that reason knows not of.” Deep in the wellspring of our hearts there is a desire—for intimacy, beauty, and adventure. And no matter what anyone might say, we look for it all the days of our lives.

    Friends, I know what you are thinking. As you watch this today, there is something in your hearts that says, “well, maybe. Maybe this time. Maybe this couple.” But what if Daniel and Megan, in all their frail humanity, are living out before us right now a picture, a metaphor of something far more real and substantial. I would like to suggest that this is no common passion play. Things are never what they seem. If you would see clearly you would see with the eyes of the heart. That is the secret of every fairy tale, because it is the secret to the Gospel, because it is the secret to life.

    Things are not what they seem, and so if we would understand our lives—especially our marriages—we must listen again to the gospel and the fairy tales based upon it. There are larger events unfolding around us, events of enormous consequence. A lamp is lit and love is lost. A box is opened and evil swarms the world. An apple is taken and mankind is plunged into darkness. Moments of immense consequence are taking place all around us. Especially this.

    Dearly beloved, you see before you a man and a woman. But there is more here than meets the eye. God gave to us this passion play to reenact, right here and now, the story of the ages. This is the story of mankind, the one story we have been telling ourselves over and over again, in every great myth and legend and poem and song. It is a love story, set in the midst of desperate times, set in the midst of war. It is a story of a shared quest. It is a story of romance. Daniel and Megan are playing out before you now the deepest and most mythic reality in the world. This is the story of God’s romance with mankind.

    A boy and a girl thrown together in some desperate journey. If we believed it, if we actually saw what was taking place right here, we would say desperate, earnest prayers. We would salute them both and we would hold our breath for what happens next. Daniel and Megan, it is time to make your vows. After this, there is no turning back.”

    The church is very quite. Only the older couples have any idea what those lovebirds have just promised, bless their hearts. They really believe that their marriage will somehow avert the darker side of the pledge; we all believed that.

    “Daniel, you are about to give your life away. You are stepping up, you are volunteering for the toughest assignment a man will ever be given: to offer your heart and your strength to Megan, time and time and time again, for the rest of your days. You have some sense of the weightiness of it. That’s why you have that nervous grin on your face. Nothing will be harder. And nothing will be richer. My words to you today are: it can be done. And it is worth it. To discover that because of your strength and sacrifice Megan can become the woman she was meant to be, that somehow your fierce love can free her heart and release her beauty—that is worth whatever this may cost you. By the grace of God, you can do this. You have what it takes.

    Megan, you have dreamed of this day for a long, long time. And now you, also, are about to give your life away. It might seem easy and natural at first, to offer your feminine heart and your vulnerable beauty to Daniel. But do not be deceived. Nothing requires more courage than for a woman to truly offer herself to her man time and time and time again. Look around. Do you see many older women risking this? But I also say to you: it can be done. And it is worth it. To discover that because of your beauty and sacrifice Daniel can become the man he was meant to be, that somehow your fierce love can free his heart and arouse his strength—that is worth whatever this may cost you. By the grace of God, you can do this. You are that beautiful woman.

    The scariest thing a woman ever offers is to believe that she is worth pursuing, to open her heart up to pursuit, to continue to open up her heart and offer the beauty she holds inside, all the while fearing it will not be enough. The scariest thing a man ever chooses is to offer his strength without knowing how things will turn out. To take the risk of playing the man before the outcome is decided. To offer his heart of strength while fearing it will not be enough.

    The lie to you, Megan, will be, “You are nothing more than a disappointment.” And the lie to you, Daniel, will be, “You are not really man enough for this.” And so, I have two words for you today. Words that I want you to keep close in your hearts as you go forward: You are. Megan, you are radiant, you shimmer, you shine, you are a treasure of a woman, a gem, you are. Daniel, you are a man, you are strong, and you are valiant. You have what it takes. Hold this close to your hearts. It can be done. And it is worth it.”  

     

  • Knowing

    Interesting philosophy class today. We talk of utopia and how to get there. A classmate said that if people would just learn/see/understand all that is wrong with now, then they would do/make the changes that needed to be done. I said most people do see it, they just don’t do anything about it because they don’t WANT it enough. Which want do they actually do? The one they want enough. So Rachel’s theory:

    Just as there are levels of consciousness, there are levels of knowing. The deeper level of knowing you are, the more likely you are of actually doing something about it. (I am trying to find the connection here between knowing and doing.)

    For this example, we will take a fact through the levels.

    Fact: 27,000children die every day from preventable causes of poverty.

    Level 1. General knowing. You hear about it.

    While you might not have known this exact number, I am sure you have a general knowledge that many children die every day from starvation and other easily preventable causes. Have you done something about it lately? Have you really let it effect you for longer than that touching movie/program/article you read?

    Level 2. Specific knowing. You learn about it.

    You read books about poverty. You watch movies, google it on the internet. You gather facts and you talk to others about it, holding discussion that might become heated. You learn about some ministries that help people in poverty, maybe give some money. But how long does this last? Is it just a phase?

    Level 3. Simple experiential knowing. You see it for yourself.

    Perhaps a short term missions trip, volunteering near or far away–you may even hold a starving child in your arms. Your heart will never be the same, and you will gain a new sensitivity to this subject. But it is still something you can pick up or put down–your choice.

    Level 4. Deep experiential knowing. It touches you.

    It happens to someone close to you. A close friend or family member faces starvation. It isn’t something across the world, it is at your front door. You see it day in and day out. You cannot get around it.

    Level 5. Ownership knowing. You feel it personally.

    It happens to you. You are starving. You own that knowledge. It is a part of you and who you are.

    This level 5 is what Job talks about at the end of the book of Job: “My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you.” He knew at a new level.

    What level does it take for you to really do something about what you know?

  • I vote because of Mr.Smith

    Reasons why I voted this year:

    1. It makes my mother happy

    2. It makes me feel like I am a part of my country (Even if I am leaving in less than two months)

    3. I got a sticker

    4. You can’t complain if you don’t try to do something about it (Now I can complain all I want)

    5. It makes me feel like a responsible adult (so does buying a toothbrush, but still)

    6. I have friends in the military/government that work hard and I respect. I owe it to them

    7. I want to be a part of the great heritage given to me. To honor the great men and women who have given their lives for the freedom to vote

    8. It overcomes the guilt I sometimes feel in not being responsible and learning what is going on in the nation

    9. I get to see Mr.Smith. He is always at the voter place, and it just makes me so happy and FAMILIAR to see him every time. He is someone you can count on. I would vote for him for anything

    I am probably one of the few people who hasn’t seen any political anything. I haven’t watched TV in years. I only read the comics. I avoid arguing about it by simply stating “I don’t know enough to argue one way or the other.” A cop out really, because I only have one life, and have decided that politics isn’t important enough to clutter up this one life. My mom catches me up with the outside world about once a week, and that works for me.

    But there is something special about voting. In Brazil, it is mandatory to vote. Super weird. It is a completely different way of looking at things. It sure does get everyone involved though…but it just feels a little dirty to me.

    Since I am not in the country much, not many things effect me. I feel strongly on the rights of unborn children and their mothers, and libraries. That is about it. When it came down to voting, I cringe and think “man, I have to find out about these guys.”

    What goes through Rachel’s head as she votes/prepares to vote:

    1. I go through sources I trust. I got a voter guide from Advance America. Why them? Because I sang at the Capital building with Eric Miller, and he seemed like a good guy. I asked my mom and close friends: “Any particular candidate you like, or extremely DON’T like?”

    2. I only accept fliers from people who look friendly and nice. The sweet old man outside the voter place won some votes for his people, because I saw he cared about it enough to inconvenience himself and stand in the cold for it.

    3. When it is me and the ballot, I don’t want to be stuck into marking “one ticket.” I want to be individual.

    4. The process: I first go through and vote for the people who voted for things I agree with. Then I looked at the flier the nice old man gave me. But there are a lot of people on there! The ones I didn’t know anything about…honestly? I read the names. If someone has a name I like, I vote for them. I make sure I vote for some women…I think they diversify the bunch. And then I turn in the ballot, like the responsible adult that I am.

    Don’t look down your nose at me. You know that when it comes down to it, not all of your reasons for who you voted for were any more “ethical” than mine. Taking an honest look at voting…it all has to do with relationships, and personal individuality to me. Don’t ask me who I voted for either…it is a secret.