February 28, 2012

• The One

  The Ongoing Argument

  Henry: Do you really think there is only one perfect mate?
  Leonardo da Vinci: As a matter of fact, I do.
  Henry: Well then how can you be certain to find them? And if you do find them, are they really the one for you or do you only think they are? And what happens if the person you’re supposed to be with never appears, or, or she does, but you’re too distracted to notice?
  Leonardo da Vinci: You learn to pay attention.
  Henry: Then let’s say God puts two people on Earth and they are lucky enough to find one another. But one of them gets hit by lightning. Well then what? Is that it? Or, perchance, you meet someone new and marry all over again. Is that the lady you’re supposed to be with or was it the first? And if so, when the two of them were walking side by side were they both the one for you and you just happened to meet the first one first or, was the second one supposed to be first? And is everything just chance or are some things meant to be? –Ever After

  My theories go from this quote above to this quote below: 

  Conan: I live, I love, I slay, and I am content –Conan the Barbarian

  There has to be some middle ground. I don’t know if there is “The One.” But I think that after you get married, they are the One. I really love this quote:

  One advantage of marriage It seems to me Is that when you fall out of love with him Or he falls out of love with you It keeps you together until maybe you fall in again. -Judith Viorst

  And you can’t end anything without quoting C.S.Lewis: People get from books the idea that if you have married the right person you may expect to go on “being in love” for ever. As a result, when they find they are not, they think this proves they have made a mistake and are entitled to a change -not realizing that, when they have changed, the glamour will presently go out of the new love just as it went out of the old one. In this department of life, as in every other, thrills come at the beginning and do not last… but if you go through with it, the dying away of the first thrill will be compensated for by a quieter and more lasting kind of interest.  - CS Lewis

  hmm. That is not completely comforting, but will do.

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